Not All Dating Advice Books Are Made Equal

If you ever looked for dating advice books at any of the online book vendors or in a large local bookstore, you probably noticed that there are a lot of books aimed at men who want to improve their dating game. I have literally read hundreds of books, and I wasted my time with about 80 percent of them, because they contained either obvious, plain truths that I already knew, or even misguiding information. A lot of these books are written by people who are very good at writing books, but not very good at dating women. They write these books by simply assembling a lot of information and packaging it in a book. However, the quality of that information is oftentimes unreliable.

Some men feel a bit embarrassed about the fact that they are looking for help to improve their dating skills. They think that they should already know this, and nobody likes to think of himself as someone who needs help. But the vast majority of men know very little about how dating really works, and admitting that lack of knowledge is a first and crucial step to becoming really good at meeting and attracting women. In fact, just being honest enough to yourself to admit this puts you already ahead of all the other men who are to insecure to even admit their insecurity to themselves.

Now, when you have a dating book in front of you how can you judge it? Immediately, the saying that one should not judge a book by its cover comes to mind, and this holds true in this case too. But what you really want to look for is specific information. Most books on this subject are basically collections of concepts, general ideas, and then some pick-up lines maybe. The problem with this information is that it might be interesting to read, but it will mainly address your logical, reasoning mind. However, dating has nothing to do with intelligence. There are a lot of guys with very low intelligence that are incredibly good at attracting women not just party girls, but even highly intelligent women. You need clear, specific advice and actionable information about what you need to do to become better at dating.

For example, does the book provide specific action steps on what you can do to feel more confident around beautiful women? This is something that many men struggle with, and there are specific methods that can help men to build up this confidence quickly and effectively. Some books suggest ways to fake confidence, but that is a really poor idea, because faking confidence is about as much work as it is to build real confidence. So what you need is essentially a workshop in a book, with exercises that you can do that will help you to progress quickly. If you follow the exercises, then you will quickly improve your dating skills.